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There's another truth that he could've mined for insight and humor if he were interested or capable of it. He's saying that the only thing that stops him from using the N-word is fear of backlash. Why is that the only thing stopping him and others from saying it? Shouldn't there be other, more appropriate filters in one's mind that stop a person from using hateful slurs? Empathy? Shame? Conscience?

And then there's this: He HAS uncovered a truth here. No one is afraid of people with intellectual disabilities. My son has down syndrome and autism. He cannot speak for himself about things like this. When the R-word is used to mock other people or concepts, it creates a comparison between that person or concept and people like my son who are neurodivergent and at times less capable. It reminds us all subconsciously that those people exist, and that they're not as capable. It reminds us they're a burden. (All things I might refute.) And it makes the world just a little less welcoming to them. Joe's joke reminds us that they're also helpless and weak. Defenseless. And instead of seeing that as an impetus to defend them, and a reason why perhaps that's the word we should be the LEAST willing to say, he tells us it's a reason why it's the easiest one for him and others to say. They can't do anything about it. And sadly, the force of someone who can fight back, for Joe, is the only reason not to do anything.

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I just reposted your piece (which I loved) on "X" and was (rightfully) emailed a warning: "Your post was detected by our systems and has had its visibility limited for violating the X rules. Specifically: We have determined your post violated our rules against Hateful Conduct." Because the "f" word is in the title, for openers. The irony.

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